The Cactus Flower Blog
Why Do I Dissociate During Therapy?
If you have ever “spaced out,” or lost track of time daydreaming, you have experienced dissociation. Dissociation is normal and a regular function of the human brain. It is a type of coping that our body learns in order to help keep us safe. If you’re in therapy, it can be confusing when you start to dissociate during session. You feel safe, you have tools, but sometimes it happens.
Working Through the Past: When and Why We Should Forgive
Maybe you have always been told to, “forgive and forget,” or turn the other cheek. Why should we forgive others? Is not offering forgiveness holding us back in some way, or can it be helpful? It all depends on how you define forgiveness.
Why Do I Attract Toxic People
Ever wonder why all the mean and hurtful people seem to gravitate to you? Keep reading to learn about how you might be attracting toxic people. And learn how to repel them instead.
A “How To” Guide to Setting Boundaries with Parents
Maybe you’re wondering what boundaries are, why they’re important, and how to go about establishing them with your parents. If you are feeling like your parents won’t leave you alone, trust you to make decisions or give you unwanted advice, then you’ve come to the right place.
I Can't Handle Adulthood: What Do I Do?
Whether it’s your commute to work, work load, student loan debt, the pressures of dating, getting an oil change, doing household chores, or remembering to buy more toilet paper and dish soap, the responsibilities of an adult life can feel overwhelming and difficult to handle. Learn how you can embrace your life and start loving, OK…tolerating, being an adult.
Somatic Flashbacks and Trauma: How Your Body Holds on to Painful Memories
Painful experiences, and the trauma that can result, don’t just live in your brain, they are also stored as body memories. Learn how to cope with flashbacks and heal your body and mind.
5 Confidence Building Exercises
You are told to “be more confident,” “believe in yourself,” “don’t be so hard on yourself,” and you think, “well that’s a lot easier said than done.” It may seem hard, but it is do-able, you CAN feel better, using these confidence building exercises.
Struggling with How to Get Over Something: Tips for Letting It Be
You keep yourself distracted with social media, television, and constant background noise, but when it gets quiet, those negative thoughts creep back in. That horrible thing you did five years ago, the time that boy hurt your feelings in fifth grade, the painful breakup you had six months ago. You probably just want it to go away and wonder how to get over something that happened in the past.